The infographic is pretty old now but gives you an idea of the software format requests: 23% 3dsmax, 18% obj, 12% fbx, 9% 3ds, 7% c4d, 4% stl, 3% lw.
https://img-new.cgtrader.com/uploads/blog/04db7daa-a47d-4188-bfdc-ae17e3ce0a89.png
In regards to modelling accuracy/size the software doesn't matter, only thing that matters is you model it correctly to the specification/dimensions. If your exports are not coming out to the correct scale that is a user error.