Can you perhaps post a few pictures of what your model looks like now during your best attempts?
there are many factors that need to be accounted for to make a model look realistic, and without knowing where you stand now, it is very hard to say what you need to change or improve.
also, in 3d modeling, experience is extremely important.
not saying that it can't be done, but achieving "EXTREME" realism on your first and only model is not exactly something that everybody can do, not even with the best instructions.
you might be an exception to the rule though, but please keep that in mind.